tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6655551983611770120.post7392415286864470159..comments2015-03-12T18:32:26.498-05:00Comments on Critical and Curious: Distraction: Philosophy and "The Mommy Wars"Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6655551983611770120.post-67939536052998130162012-05-03T17:45:19.125-05:002012-05-03T17:45:19.125-05:00I see what you are talking about. I understand, to...I see what you are talking about. I understand, too, it is hard to see how kids respond to the world around them due to how their parents choose to engage with them. I'm not sure how I feel about the word "punishment" mostly because of the connotations it has for me. I try really hard to interact with my kids in a way that they will find in the real world, once I am not around - and there will not always be someone there to tell them what to do or how to act. I am structured and consistent but I try to stick with consequences that my kids don't identify only with me. Mostly, the golden rule, and I reinforce it constantly and talk to them about their decisions. Mothering is.... challenging, like all worthwhile things in life - simultaneously personal and public and requiring constant self reflection (at least, in my opinion). I can tell children whose parents are reflective and engaged in raising 'people' and I can tell the children whose parents check out and adhere to what society throws at them. In that way I am guilty of being judgemental as well. Thanks for engaging 'Mrs F'!hihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17695270805510077401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6655551983611770120.post-52892047658859975132012-05-03T17:02:20.417-05:002012-05-03T17:02:20.417-05:00Wow, that is a mouthful, I didn't read the art...Wow, that is a mouthful, I didn't read the articles, but what you said is enough to think about. I will admit that I am guilty about judging other mothers, but I don't think that it's for no reason. Usually, the only thing I judge mothers about is their lack of mothering. I feel as though so many mothers out there-please this is only MY opinion, no one has to agree-don't really feel it necessary to punish their children. And I am not saying that I relish in punishing my kids, I actually hate it and tell them so when I am doing it. But the fact that I do punish my children, I believe, forms an infinitely stronger bond than if I would let them walk all over me. I get that some mothers, and fathers too, don't want to be the bad guy, but that is why (and I have witnessed this in the public school system so much) many kids don't seem to even be phased by supposed authority figures such as teachers. Authority sounds so bad, but you know what I mean. My youngest in kindergarten tells me at least three times a week that some child in her class got sent to the principals office, and we live in a great community with great, involved parents. I could go on and on about the instances that have arisen with both my girls at school and kids just being plain assholes-pardon my French. I truly believe that kids are born innocent, and are totally shaped by their environment and their up bringing (or lack thereof). So pushover moms out there, stand up for yourself and others (teachers, parents, community volunteers)!! Try being a mean mom sometimes, it's ok, you won't scar your kids for life, they will actually respect you more for it trust me!Mrs. Fhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09516245965720281297noreply@blogger.com